things like:
“when you’re not looking for it, it will come”
I don’t know if that’s what you tell your girlfriends, but it doesn’t work accross the line ok!
because guess what..if a guy doesn’t ask a girl for her number, he is not gonna get it.
and another thing, why do girls always explain things to guys in the most ambiguous ways.. usually ending the comment by admitting that YOU don’t even understand what you wrote.
feeding us such useless garbage as advice only makes the fruit go sour.
When you are out and approaching women a key thing to remember is; make her feel comfortable.
In any situation where you are meeting someone for the first time and having a first conversation there is anxiety and nervousness on both ends. If you can make her feel comfortable it will do two things.
1. She will start to open up and tell you about things that she might not tell others.
2. It makes it appear as though you talk to women all the time, it shows confidence too. There is nothing to be nervous about.
However to women your ability to converse is huge. Women are not fickle like some men that only date girls with large breasts.
Instead women are much more concerned with getting to know someone and they choose the partners more based on personality. So this first conversation will often make or break an attraction.
How to Make Her Feel Comfortable
There are a couple things I try to do here.
1. Genuinely show interest in what she is talking about. Be it; family, friends, school, work, travel, whatever.
2. Ask follow up questions. This means if she tells you she has two sisters ask where they live, what they do, are they married.
3. Smile and Eye Contact, do this through the conversation. If there is the attraction you can often tell just by looking her in the eyes and smiling.
4. Answer your own conversation topics and tell funny stories or stories that are complimentary to you.
So as not to make this first conversation feel like an interview you should answer your own questions. For example if you asked about her about her family then you should tell her about your family.
However if you can make her feel comfortable when you talk, this often equals attraction.
