How to get a girlfriend

Maybe after the split things seem a little unusual between you and your ex. It’s only ordinary. I mean, the both of you used to be so close with each other and now where do the boundaries lie?

Instead of letting a host of awkward silences and nagging questions plague you and leave you at a complete loss for what to do, here are a couple of things to keep in mind.

The both of you are likely going to want a little time to cool off and pull yourselves together. Even if the both of you are counting on staying friends in the long run, it’s only to be expected for there to be quite a few peculiar feelings after a split. Take a while to yourself to redefine who you are as a single person before you try to maintain any sort of relationship with your ex.

Do things that you like doing and find how to enjoy your own life without a romantic relationship. This will help you foster a feeling of autonomy and self-reliance which will make you less likely to get upset or shaken by your next meeting with your ex.

After a month or so of withholding contact from your ex, you may be ready to open the lines of communication again (check with yourself and see if you feel emotionally ready). When you do this, treat your ex like an old friend who you haven’t seen in a long time. Do not assume that there will be any sort of romantic spark between the two of you.

Take things slow and try and have a friendship with your ex before trying to take things deeper than that, if that is what you want. Ensure that the both of you can get a long civilly and enjoy each other’s company before attempting to set a romantic tone.

One of the best methods to test the waters and see whether the both of you can actually get along as either friends or lovers is to simply catch up with your ex over a coffee. This is a low-commitment activity that lets you talk with your ex and see if the both of you can enjoy being around each other in any capacity.

If things do not work out, you can always just get up and leave, which is something you can’t always do during a dinner date or some other kind of gathering where you may have to hang around for a check to arrive or some other sort of “barrier to exit.”

Don’t forget to take it slowly and simply to try to have a good time without any form of attachment to the end result. This is the best way to have a pleasant and enjoyable time with your ex, whether the two of you remain friends, become lovers again, or come to a decision to part ways.

If you want to learn more about what to do after your break up, be sure to check out: Things to Do with Your Ex Boyfriend and How to Tell Your Ex Wants You Back to learn more about post-break up tactics.

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