Ways to Manage Your Urges to Call Her During No Contact

This entry was posted Thursday, 20 October, 2011 at 4:13 am

If you’ve decided to use the No Contact Rule, I’m able to tell you’re really committed to healing yourself over the long run and finding a rewarding relationship with your ex or with someone else.

But how does one keep those urges to do things you know that you just should not do at bay? What are you able to do when you are feeling your hand taking on a life of its own and reaching for the phone?

Here are a few love advice ideas:

First, keep yourself busy. We feel the most powerful urges to contact our ex when we are alone with our thoughts, like when we’re going to sleep at night or when we’re doing something dreary and repetitive at work.

You might not be well placed to get around going to work or falling asleep, but you can minimize these idle moments when your mind drifts back to “her.” Begin by doing things that actively involve your brain like learning a totally new language, playing an action loaded sport, like football, or merely having a good time with your friends joking about the good days.

This keeps your brain actively engaged in the present moment so it can’t drift back to your ex. This works well for keeping your thoughts from driving you mad.

Second, work on making your life something you can feel excited about without or with your ex.

I’m sure that you probably feel down in the dumps about life at this time. That is normal following a break-up, but you do not need to remain there. Find things you can be pumped up about in your life.

Set goals and work towards making them your reality. As you begin to make progress toward your ambitions, you may naturally feel more self-confidence and more self-esteem.

This will only make you feel better and better about yourself. I know plenty of folk, myself included, sometimes feel rather low after a break up, so doing things like this is going to help you notice that you really do have a lot going on in your life and that you can turn this experience into something actually positive regardless of what ends up happening between your ex and you.

Remember that you do not have to make your split up more difficult than it must be. Use these tips to help you keep yourself from concentrating on the negative feelings that just flood your thoughts after the split up.

If you found this helpful and you’d like to learn more, also check out how to win your girl back and get your ex back with no contact.