Any Advice For Dating Novices?
I’m planning to date eventually. But because I’m a novice when it comes to relationships. How do you be careful not to fall to hard for someone and become to obssessive or infatuated if things don’t work out? And wear your heart on your sleeve and get hurt. If a guy doesn’t return your call or like you back. Do you think sensitive people will always be sensitive when it comes to dating? Any good advice?
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July 20th, 2009 at 9:21 am
Great question. First of all, let me preface my answer by saying that I am almost 40 and work with youth on a regular basis.
That said, sit down now and decide what you want in a relationship. I tell all my youth the same thing. Dating should be used for determining a suitible mate. Do not date anyone you would not marry. Write out your goals to dating. Make them specific. Also write out how far you are willing to go. Be aware that men are visually motivated and respond to provacative clothing. Also be aware that women are emotionally and physically motivated. Therefore, touch can be a very powerful factor incrossing boundaries that you don’t want to cross. Make sure that you understand that and use that information when setting boundaries. Most of my teens will not go beyond holding hands and/or an occasional (Very) quick kiss. “Face mushing” will lead to other things.
As far as being sensitive, if that is the way you are, then that is the way you are. Just realize that the average teenager will have their heart broken an average of 6 times in their dating career. Just pick up and move on. If you have your priorities straight to begin with, then it will hurt less each time. It just goes to show that he isn’t the guy for you.
Some dating guidelines that really help are ALWAYS double date. Go places where you are never alone one-on-one. Involve each other’s families. When you get comfortable with the family, then the relationship goes better. Realize that there will be future “Mother-in-laws” that will insist that you are not good enough for their son. Don’t worry about it. Also, for the first few dates, go Dutch. Each one pay their own way. That way, you don’t owe him anything if it doesn’t work out.
Hope this helps.