Advice On Dating Someone With Children?
I have started dating this guy, I have never believed in love at first sight. But he changed everything, we just click (so cheesy but totally true) I think when you have met ‘The One’ you just know, and that is how I feel right now.
There is just one thing that I haven’t experience before, it’s dating someone who has children. He has a 2 year old and 3 month old twins. This doesn’t make me feel any differently about him. But I am trying to get advice from people who have been in this position before.
Also, I don’t have children. He is 26 and a very responsible father, sees them often, pays his own way. Has a degree and a really good job. I am 23 and don’t have any children, but have always wanted a boy. He has 3 girls and has expressed he would like a boy in the future, but I have always been worried that if I ever dated someone with children that they may never want to have kids with me, or it may not be the same as if it was the first time for both of us?
Thanks
VaNiLLe- says:
February 25th, 2010 at 8:14 pm
You love him - he loves you. Snap. You don’t need to worry about his kids and all. I mean - if his wife and him are over, aren’t they?
If you’re sure he’s the one, go for it. Happiness is all that really matters.
HWHaveUB says:
February 25th, 2010 at 8:30 pm
Important: Do they live with the father? If not there is not much of a problem but if they do you will have to like the kids and have a good relationship with their mother. How’s that for him? Is he all right with her? Can you live with this?
Those are the biggest problems you might face, If it’s allright by all means go for it, and be happy!
ryhmer06 says:
February 26th, 2010 at 12:56 am
I think I can help. I have a daughter and I met my wife after she was born. For whatever reason things didnt work out, but when I saw my wife I knew she was “The One” She tells me all the time that if she was going to love me, she had to understand that I have a child and I also have to be a part of her life. My wife and I had a daughter together and I could not be more happier. I wanted to have another child and the fact that I already have a daughter, did not stop me from having another. Love played more of a factor and if he feels the same way about you that you feel about him, having another child by you should be a blessing. Hope I helped
Muskan says:
February 26th, 2010 at 3:36 am
u think u’re afraid of that while u’re dating someone with children?? it’s mostly depends on how that person is truely connected to u?? i mean if he really intrested to u as more than dating such as marraige and children as u said. don’t worry about having children now. if he marraied u, he’ll definately wants to have children of urs and him. if u think u’re still afraid of losing it, then u should mentioned about this conversation to him and find out if he wants same thing or not. u’ll be fine..
good luck =D
smile!! says:
February 26th, 2010 at 3:49 am
Keep your guard up, as this seems to be a guy that is all talk and no action except making babies! Why would he have children if he is not capable of staying in a relationship? Right now you need to ask yourself why are you so insecure that you would fall for someone that gives you a little attention in the way of eye contact? If he is as smart as you make him appear why is he a single father and why does he not know about birth control? Sorry to burst your bubble but I think you are starving for attention and took his flirting eye contact a little to far and think that you are in love now. Do not be vulnerable you are fitting in with whatever his needs are for now, but he obviously can not maintain a relationship or he would be with his babies mama. Sorry I know you did not want the truth, but you got a reality check instead.