Advice Pretty Please….dating A Guy That Drinks, But I Don’t Like It?
I don’t like a guy that drinks and this dude drinks but once in a while. I really like the guy, but I don’t know if this one thing will always bug me. Have you ever dealt with anything similar and do you have any advice?
Trying to Help says:
February 24th, 2010 at 11:21 am
If the guy obviously has no drinking “problem,” he will really resent you telling him that he shouldn’t be able to drink socially for– apparently– no real reason. I can’t think of anything you could do. He might stop for a little while just to make you happy; but, later, he’ll do what he considers “reasonable,” again, and you’ll have to choose between destroying a relationship in which you are invested, or just accepting that one thing about him. If drinking is really a huge deal for you, he’s probably not the right guy for you.
TasselLa says:
February 24th, 2010 at 5:07 pm
No, I haven’t. I’m a social drinker myself. The fact that this guy drinks only once in a while is a credit to him. At least he isn’t coming home stone drunk and smashing holes in the wall and falling all over his legs and feet. I’ve lived with a guy who was like that, and I made sure I wouldn’t become like him. But I don’t know if your situation is a religious related conviction, or just a fact that you don’t want someone who drinks. Many people are divided on this one, depending on personal preference and religion. My pastor has said that drinking in itself is not a sin, but abusing drinks and getting drunk IS. If God said we weren’t to drink, then he never would have turned the water into wine for a wedding in the bible times. People got drunk in those days, yes, but there were many who were conservative, like the guy you are dating with their drinks. I wouldn’t write him off yet. And remember, none of us are perfect, don’t expect him to be. If he’s a good guy, and he treats you with respect and dignity, then consider yourself very fortunate.
Nomad says:
February 24th, 2010 at 5:16 pm
Make yourself scarce when he starts to drink. When the bottles open, tell him you have to go or have something to do.
The more he finds himself alone drinking the more he will corrilate his drinking with you leaving. This is ofcourse a method you can use if you don’t want to confront him.
Confrontation and telling him you have an issue with it is still the best way to go.
Ashley says:
February 24th, 2010 at 6:40 pm
I have the same problem. I never drink and this guy i am dating is dirnk everytime i see him. He told me when we first met that he drunk socially. Its not socially when u at home and is drinking by your damn self. He is always talking about getting a drink and it is annoying. Usually its just beer and he is not getting drunk but still. I don’t think u should dump him unless it becomes a problem in the relationship
Valentines romantic gifts says:
February 25th, 2010 at 12:19 am
mmm i thought when someone becomes legal to drink its their personal decision, u dont have control over something like that, if u cant handle it, move on find someone who has the same views…
a lot of people can have a couple of drinks every now and then, its really not that bigger issue, if it is controled (not binging)
maybe u should try having a nice bottle of wine together over dinner or something and relax a lil
life is too short for picking petty faults in people
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February 25th, 2010 at 1:07 am
If he was an everyday drinker (alcoholic) i could see the problem but he just drinks once in a while.. and that’s okay nothing wrong with that.. just like him for him the drinking shouldn’t be an issue especially if you really like him.
swcash says:
February 25th, 2010 at 4:08 am
You have two choices, accept him for what he is or move on.
Chances are, if he quit drinking, you would find some other thing he does that you don’t like.
Enjoy life. Quit finding fault with it.
Squido
Neli P says:
February 25th, 2010 at 10:08 am
If this guy only drinks once in a while and hardly ever gets drunk you will learn to deal with it that’s just guys being guys
brute force seo says:
February 25th, 2010 at 11:32 am
if you dont like it tell him. its not like your asking him to stop something that is unreasonable, besides not drinking has never hurt anyone.
toxicdav says:
February 25th, 2010 at 1:24 pm
once in a while isnt bad. when he abuses it you should be worried
Dan says:
February 25th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
tell him how you feel and if he doesnt respect that, you deserve better!! good luck