Anyone Give Me Some Dating Advice! Girl Problems!?
Im 21 and never had a proper girlfriend, every girl i seem to like just ends in disaster. i feel i dont have the confidence to approach girls im attracted to anymore. I would say im quite gd looking, not being big headed or anything but im not an ugly guy 
Why should i be so scared to talk to girls?! Just too scared i make a fool of myself!
vrathal says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 4:58 am
Just keep putting yourself out there. Talk to girls, even the ones that you aren’t attracted to. You will feel much less “at risk” of messing up, and it should help build some confidence.
Cherushi says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 4:58 am
Aww, that’s adorable, hon. But trust me when I say it means you just haven’t met the -right- girl yet. You don’t need to be afraid to talk to them. Look at how many of them there are in the world! If conversing with one doesn’t work out, then you can always try a different approach with the next!
You’re talking to one right now!
I think if you’ve got the guts to ask for advice from complete strangers over the internet - with the risk of someone answering in a mean way - you’ve got the guts to talk to any girl. So no worries, and don’t stress too much about it. You’re young, have fun!
csu chico student says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 9:26 am
be confident and don’t be fake around them. Be yourself is actually the best advice. While you do need to put yourself in situations where you will meet girls, make sure you still have guy friends who will support you (aka beer, advice, and complaining). Also, if you are not into bars, don’t go to a bar to pick up on girls. Be active, do stuff you like, and go outside and I think eventually you will meet someone that has similar interest to you.
Also, when you are looking for a girl, keep control of yourself. Guys are naturally driven by their part.
zeeleeya says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 1:02 pm
Don’t let bad relationships put you down. Just keep looking. If you’re too scared to make a fool of yourself from getting rejected, purposely make a fool of yourself. What I mean is, if you get rejected just say something goofy or just be calm and be like “Okay, I guess I’ll just have to stay at home and talk to my dogs”. I know that was lame, but I couldn’t think of anything. This makes you not feel like a total idiot and makes the girl not feel so bad about rejecting you. Think of what you’re gonna say if you get rejected and if you’re not, before actually going up to the person so you’ll have something to say for both outcomes. As a girl, I think this will work.
Heather says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 3:43 pm
it sounds to me that, the reason you are afraid to approach girls now is that you have been hurt so many times you are afraid of getting hurt again. i’m the same way. but does that stop me from getting back on the horse and trying again? no. i keep on riding (no pun intended) girls that you are attracted too are probably in the same situation. they are probably self conscious about guys approaching enough. they are probably thinking “am i not pretty enough? am i not good enough? why are guys coming up to me? am i not skinny enough?” the only thing you have to do is confront your fear. look your fear in the eye and say “you can’t hurt me, i’m not scared of you” and take a deep breath and go for the punch. you are least likely to make a fool of yourself when you have confidence. plus confidence is a very attractive quality in a guy. when you first approach a girl talk about THEM then they will be interested. that will always strike up a conversation and then she will ask about you. the worst that could happen is her blowing you off. but that’s when just get back on the horse and ride again. OR she might even be playing hard to get. either way just believe in yourself and you can do it. i believe in you. you CAN do it. hope i helped at least a little.
celosa says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 10:11 pm
honestly girls LOVE confidence in men, and its always the boys who approach the girls, so if you dont got guts to go up to a cute girl, then she sure aint gonna go to you (thats the mans job)
good luck man
sometimes you just gotta RISK IT TO GET THE BISCUIT lol.
dont be afraid of rejection.. or else you will always be single.. and trust me most girls arent assholes when a guy comes up to them and tries to make conversation. and over time of goin up to girl you will get more confidence and it will be easier to approach them
Elpida says:
February 23rd, 2010 at 11:42 pm
Everyone makes a “fool of themselves” at one point or another in their life. Twenty-one is still young - you’ve got plenty of time! Just relax (I know, easier said than done…), but really just be yourself and pretend you’re talking to a guy rather than a girl if that helps. Sometimes that takes off a bit of the “scariness” of it, since there are less expectations when speaking to someone of the same gender. It’s worth a shot. Good luck.
trj says:
February 24th, 2010 at 1:39 am
i like confident men. to be honest i think its just plain stupid when people are too un confident of themselves. they have nothing to lose. and when u make a fool of urself, dont be ashamed and runaway from it. embrace it and laugh at it. if ur attracted to a girl, make sure not to make too settle moves, like if they have a myspace or something, please dont act like a stalker and give them private messages every day about random stuff they dont need to know. go up to them in person and be confident
Brenda says:
February 24th, 2010 at 6:42 am
Be confident dont back down. You can always find a girl theres a somebody for everybody. so keep looking ask some freinds to hook you up on maybe a blind date make this fun. find some other guys that cant find girls and maybe approch the girls together that way you always have friends at your side
James says:
February 24th, 2010 at 6:49 am
Your scared because you don’t want it to end like the others. Get that off your mind, remember girls are not all the same. Every new girl you attempt will be different from the last, so don’t sweat it when you see an attractive woman and want to go for it, just do it.
Free Hip Hop Beats says:
February 24th, 2010 at 10:08 am
Girls always like smart and confident men. Becoming popular with women is not an in-born gift, but a set of skills you can learn. You don’t need to be scared. Feel confident and you will be more at ease with all girls. You have a lot to offer! Soon you’ll find that dream girl.
John says:
February 24th, 2010 at 5:03 pm
you answered it in the end haha…just dont be afraid of rejection..would you be afraid if you got rejected at a job interview? Its like you apply to several jobs and you get one…same with a girlfriend..you will find one eventually its just a matter of time and you have to be persistent
texasros says:
February 24th, 2010 at 9:37 pm
just go with confidence. girls are attracted to confidence! if you look stupid, just laugh at yourself. we dont like guys that are all.. ‘oh i’m just gonna go sit down now’ wats the worst thats gonna happen? just go for it! CONFIDENCE IS KEY!!
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yay x] says:
February 24th, 2010 at 9:59 pm
girls are the same way about guys… well.. atleast i am.. Act normal, act yourself, try NOT to impress a girl or else the girl will have a secret impression on you. Thats what i have to be like, i just get nervous around a guy .. a lot!
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:43 am
you shouldn’t
K.Kombui says:
February 25th, 2010 at 8:54 am
don’t be . girls like confidence. on the other. hand being single is good. once your in a long term relationship it’s like jail. not always. but I’ve heard.
sydney says:
February 25th, 2010 at 10:51 am
Maybe scared of rejection?
Jess. says:
February 25th, 2010 at 11:02 am
Just say to yourself what is there to lose? Really? After you start talking to girls more it will get easier and easier
munchkin says:
February 25th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
well to me it seems like u care too much of wah a girl is gonna say about u…just be yourself and they should like you for who u are.
have confidence!
tim g says:
February 25th, 2010 at 8:20 pm
keep looking.
. says:
February 26th, 2010 at 1:50 am
be a man, don’t get scared
Briam G says:
February 26th, 2010 at 7:57 am
First thing that I find wrong with you is your lack of confidence.
Did you know that most men look for the average girl? The average guy feels that a HOT woman is out of their league. In fact it’s the exact opposite. Most HOT looking women are available, you just need to know a few things, and I will share them with you.
Make the mood: Feel happy, relaxed, and confident! Start slow, and read her expressions. You can tell if she is excited or bored. Try to make her laugh if at all possible. Women go out to have fun. They also want to feel protected, so no stalker stuff. Do this and you will get the girl. Try to get her excited about talking with you, but…
…If she’s bored…
…Change her mind: Talk to her and convince her that the best way for her to be happy is with you. Explain how, what you have, and what you would do to make her feel happy. This step is usually saved for the break up point or the, “at the right moment” point.
Then…
Give her the desire to act: Show her how easy it will be with you, how much fun. Make her think about it, let her picture it, and see where she is at that point. Revert to changing her mind if you need to.
The only thing that you have to remember is that she is just a woman after all!!! If it helps you relax, just think of her as a piece of meat. It’s not to degrade her but to relax you. People often say, “there are many fish in the sea”, but I like my variation of it better.
Keep the conversation as low key as possible, meaning NO PERSONAL STUFF, not yet anyway. Think of it as an interview, but your chances of getting the job done are 100 out of 100. There are many things that people have and can do that make them special, but all you need to be for the first date is You.
The key is to connect, if you can’t get the connection, then move on to the next piece of meat. You will end up with someone by the end of the night. Try going out with a friend, pair up so you have some support if you need it. Once you get going, your there. All you need to get is the first response (acknowledgment) then it’s all set.
I get girls without even trying, been doing it so long that it just comes natural for me.
Try going out with some practice girls. Don’t expect anything, just put yourself out there and learn from it. When you do get serious about getting a woman, it will be a lot less stressful, and you’ll be more confident.