Are Parents Always Right About Dating Advice?
I’m 20 and probably too old to be getting dating advice from my disfunctional, divorced albeit loving parents. I have been dating a neglectful oblivious guy for 8 months and I know it’s awful but I kissed another guy when I was drunk, and immediately after, sent my boyfriend an email saying it was over. My friends stand by me, but my parents are mad at me for this, and they are being really obnoxious about it, saying I should have checked with them first! WTF? I’m an adult, although I am immature, but why am I supposed to check with my parents first before breaking up with a guy?!
Richard says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 7:04 am
Most people (perhaps yourself included) have inadequate abilities to deal with their own relationships, much less the relationships of others. This does not mean that they do not believe that they can run your life better than you do. Just read some of the answers to your question.
Twenty years old is above the Age of Consent for every state in the USA. This means if you want to start or break an adult relationship with another person you can legally do so without interference from your parents. This does not mean that your parents won’t interfere or will offer great advice.
If necessary, ignore your parents or side step the issue. It is really none of their business at this point. You are the one who needs to discover what you need in a relationship and who you are interested in as possible partners. Then you make your choices and deal with the consequences.
If you really want to learn about long term adult relationships, then learn how to communicate openly and honestly with other people. Learn how to express your thoughts and feelings and learn how to get others to express theirs to you.
The cure for immaturity is spending time getting wiser, not just older.
Krista S says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 1:18 pm
It’s your life, and you don’t have to check in with your parents. They didn’t get to see everything you saw about the relationship. Parents only ever get to see the best of the boyfriend. They probably think they’re doing you a favor by telling you you lost something good, but just let them know that while you’re thankful for their concern you think you made the right decision and you wish that they would support you. They’ll probably see the light
mommyof3 says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 3:58 pm
Not if one wants you to keep going out with a loser. NEVER SETTLE!!!!!!! You did the right thing by getting rid of the old guy. Parents, while usually have the best intentions, are not always right about dating advice. You are the one who knows whats best for you……..at age 20 anyway. Listen to their advice, but choose for yourself. Here is a great site to find answers to some of those really tough questions, plus, it’s a lot of fun! http://www.datingtips247.com
tegen117 says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:01 pm
eurgh this is so wrong. its your life, do what you want, you clearly wernt happy with ur ex and if your parents want you to be a relationship which your not happy in they should do to hell. if you really like the new guy just go 4 it, its not ur parents life to live its yours so go live it however the hell you want to!!
flattley says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:03 pm
Kiss who you like and tell the parents to take a hike.
Problem is they are usually able to say: I told you so.
Makes you sick doesn’t it?
nicepers says:
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:20 pm
since ur an adult they cant tell u wat 2 do. just try make them feel involved by telling them about ur boyfriends etc…mine left me alone after that. I had the same general experiance as u
good luck
yeahhhh :) says:
December 23rd, 2009 at 2:30 am
Most of the time they are kinda….but no way you’re too old to ask for permission….so they totally wrong
Schmoke and a pancake? says:
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:12 am
Yeah, you are too old to ask your parents’ permission before breaking up with someone. They need to just let you be.
Besides, if they are divorced and dysfunctional, they might not be the best source for romantic advice to begin with. My mother’s twice divorced and has some strange ideas about relationships. I know I have never gotten it right either, but I do know well enough not to take her advice. My marriage would have ended many times over if I had done the stuff she’s told me to do.
Maybe they just want what’s best for you and haven’t accepted that it’s time for you, not them, to determine that. Or maybe they’re just really controlling.