Dating Advice: Do I Have To Pay For Everything?
Me and this girl I’ve seeing are going to the theme park tomorrow. My question is: Do I have to pay for all her stuff? (Ticket, food, games, stuff in the stores, etc.)
I wouldn’t care if food wasn’t like $10+ per meal and everything inside the park wasn’t twice as expensive. So should I pay for everything (and feel like I’m dating a gold digger) or should I do something else?
By the way I’m only 18, I go to school full-time and I work part-time so I’m not made of money.
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"Not today, Zurg!" says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:47 am
Well if there a gold digger then they otta have some gold ………to go PAWN or somthing.
Don’t spend all your money in 1 spot.
Take half or less of the money and see what you two can really find to do.
(hey if thats all you got “rite”……Werk wit it)
That way if it don’t work out ………At least you can try again with another girl.
Yeah ……..You spend ALL that money and it really just don’t work out ….
You will be so broke , you’ll feel “dead” as zombie.
Besides use it as a “test” to see how well she dose with money. If she spends money till its gone you don’t want that girl no-way.
I don’t care how good she “looks”…….
Them the kinda “vampire girls” that will put the bite on ya , an you turn in to a Zombie.
Yeah………. A real Zombie, walking dead, no life ,
no money, no joy , just mad at the world , eat’n people they so mad.
Besides, the Bible calls this idea of holding back ,being “Saved”…….And It’s a good thing just don’t backslide on your self .
Otherwise , Next thing you No : Z O M B I E…………..
luvs2sho says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 1:38 pm
theme parks can be expensive so… im sure she knows your situation, being in college, working part time, so i bet she would understand that you cant pay for everything. maybe agree to split the costs. you buy the tickets, she could buy the food. and then pay for your own games/stuff or something… OR you could agree not to do games and not to buy a bunch of stuff.. because honestly do you really need all the crap you can end up coming home with from those kind of places??
remember love isnt all about money. im sure she would understand
.: The Girl Next Door:. says:
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:32 pm
I think you guys should go dutch (each pay for yourself)
Maybe just buy her ticket if you want.
But I’m sure she’d understand, going to theme parks is pretty expensive
Have fun!
auburngi says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:13 am
Dont let her walk all over you tell yeah to be generous you SHOULD pay for SOME thingd but dont let her just take like that if she liked you yall would a gree that the guy doesent have to pay for everything my sousin is getting married and she never paid for everything but neither did her bf they loved each other so much they didnt care they even payed for each OTHER in the theme park we went to…..if yall like each other enough money wont matter..well it will but….yu dont need to pay for EVERYTHING and dont let it feel akward a girl paying trust me sometimes me and friends fight over who pays but that is just a waste of time have fun and dont let her take advantage of you like that! But DONT be rude about it! hope you have fun and it works out!
*YEAH*
manta_qt says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 5:09 am
Does she have a job as well?? I don’t think you should have to pay for everything. If u invited her to the park then u should buy her ticket… meals can be split,if she wants other items she can get them. Maybe you buying her something to remind you of your day together would be cool also. Thats about it. Best wishes!!!
? says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 6:50 am
Well, if it’s a first date, you should pay for everything just to show her that you’re not some kind of cheap guy. But if you guys are dating for awhile already, it’s only more fair that each person pays their own share.
jazmin M says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 10:15 am
You pay a part of things like you can pay for her food, games,extra and she can pay for her ticket…
or you can pay for her ticket and she can pay for her food …and etc. She should know tha you arent made out of money.[before you go to the theme park tell her that she should bring some money too...so it wont come offas a surprise...]
good luck!
slo_gin0 says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 3:57 pm
Was it your idea to take her to the theme park, if so then you are pretty much on the hook to pay for everything unless she happens to offer, because you asked her out. If it was a mutual decision to go then its reasonable to expect her to pay for some of her own things.
Beach Girl says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 5:32 pm
You do have to pay for everything if it was YOUR idea to go and you ASKED her for a date. Don’t ever ask a girl on a date you can’t afford.
If it was her idea, just tell her (before you go) that you only have $50 (or whatever) and suggest doing something else…then, if she offers to pay just because she really wants to be with you…you’re good to go.
sustasue says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:06 pm
You can talk to her and tell her your situation. She probably has an idea of how it is with you since you are in school. It’s not like you are working full time and going to school part time. The only thing that may not work in your favor is the fact that you didn’t mention this when you asked her out. She may not have the funds either, or she may resent you springing it on her at the last minute after she’s already agreed to go. You really should have mentioned it when you asked her to accompany you. This time you may have to foot the bill for lack of proper planning. Sorry dude. Try to keep spending to a minimum if you can, and hope she doesn’t think you’re just being cheap. If she really likes you she may understand, but don’t be surprised if she doesn’t.
Tiffany h says:
February 4th, 2010 at 12:30 am
Most girls won’t expect you to pay for everything- at least the ones that aren’t actual “gold diggers.”
Most likely she won’t mind if you go dutch. If she pitches a fit, then you may get an answer as to whether you truly want to be with this girl.
lord_fen says:
February 4th, 2010 at 12:35 am
I like to think that in a world of equal opportunity and female empowerment, it’s OK to let the woman pay sometimes. With most of the women that I’ve dated, you generally do a trade-off: You buy dinner, then she buys dinner. You buy the movie tickets, she grabs the snacks. That sort of thing. If you wanted to be nice and had the extra money, you could purchase her ticket for her and allow her to pay for anything inside the park (or better idea - suggest that you eat at a reasonably priced restaurant outside the park before or after you go in).
You can still be a gentleman without footing the tab for everything.
ADM™ is back! says:
February 4th, 2010 at 12:58 am
Dude I know what you mean. Unfortunately, in this society men should pay at least on the first dates unless she is the one who invited you out. After that, you should take turns like you pay once, she pays the next time. That’s how it should be in my opinion
girlrock says:
February 4th, 2010 at 1:08 am
yeah, sometimes make it even.
white says:
February 4th, 2010 at 5:43 am
do something simple if you don’t want to spend money, there’s always the park, beach, etc. Remember you can’t buy love. luck
revelinm says:
February 4th, 2010 at 7:34 am
hmmm…as a girl, i’d say be prepared. bring enough money for both of you, but dont appear too eager to pay. if you pass a vendor and she turns to you with those big puppy eyes and smiles and says “pooky?” you just know she wants the dough. haha.
when i’ve gone out on dates, I’ve split bills in half.
i go to school full time and work part time, so i know how you feel. but we ladies are strange and unpredictable. =) best of luck, friend.