Dating Advice: Does He Really Like Me Or Does He Just Like “me”? Plz Help?
I know its long, but its not boring!!!
Heres how it is:
i’m 13 and there’s a guy who is almost a year older than me who says he really loves me. (whatev, you know?)
heres the weird part:
so, i’ve heard so much weird stuff about him. i’ve heard bad things about him, some which actually werent true.
he’s in my best friends grade, and he like, hits her butt and pops her bra strap. she doesnt think of him that way though. everytime i ask him about the stuff he does to her, he says he doesnt think of her that way and that he was just messing around.
he says he loves me and will always no matter what. blah blah blah
so everytime he asks me out, i tell him i dont trust him and i have reasons.
but heres the other thing:
my best GUY friend (lets call him frank.) is also one of his best friends.
so frank was with this guy one day. they went to a movie and to hooters and somewhere else.
frank said the guy texted me through the whole movie.
frank said that the guy didnt even want to go to hooters because he didnt want to do anything that would make me mad. frank said when they were at hooters, he just sat there and watched tv and texted me. (and ate, of course)
so i thought about it. then the other day, frank tells me this.
frank said, in so many words, that the guy has sort of “fantasized”, i guess you could say, of me basically playing cowgirl. (you know…ride it cowgirl.) and i am NOT that kind of girl. never at this young age. so i asked the guy about it. he just said lol. then i was like, why’d you say it?? would you have really done it?? and he was like, well, maybe. i was like, its a yes or no question. he goes, sure.
like i said, i refuse to do anything like that at this age. ANYTHING. its gross and inappropriate.
so i’m afraid that if i go out with him that he’ll try something. which i’d just say no, but then i’d break up with him.
what should i do? please give serious advice. and advice from people who have had this sort of issue too would be great! thanks!
<3 NJ&TA <3 says:
January 30th, 2010 at 3:19 am
i have the same problem. and here are the answers i’ve gotten:
it’s a guy thing and it’s normal. definitely if he’s young. he’s not being a skeeze. girls and stuff like that are on their minds 24/7. girls are wired differently than boys and we don’t think about sex and stuff like that every 2 freakin seconds. they do. it’s in their personalities. just because he’s saying those things, doesn’t mean you have to do them! if you do get together with him, do NOT compromise your values/morals for him, no matter how good the idea may sound at the time. please stick to your beliefs and don’t ever let a boy change them. i would brush his comments off, but if he does try to go further while knowing that you don’t want to, talk to him about it and make sure he gets it through his head that you’re not into that crap
Gvrt says:
January 30th, 2010 at 8:11 am
Well from what i hear hes a HUGE flirt… usually thos guys cant have a girlfriend for too long… they only want hook ups. and you never stated if you like him or not. Plus if he wants things you dont want to give him it wont work out. Maybe when hes older it could work tho
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January 30th, 2010 at 10:58 am
i knew a guy like that, and he said he wasnt like that and he was, and i actully went along with some stuff, and.. he was a little player who slapped everyone *** all over every girl, yet always texting me filling me up with words.. he ended up hooking up with the girl i was worst enemies with to the party i brought him too.. he apologized 2 months later and wanted to go out with me and he actully really did change but i completly blew him off.
give him a chance if you really like him, but do not let him get his way teenage boys.. will fill you up with any b/s just to get in your pants, excpesially at this age believe me. so just be careful, remember people can say anything, but its there actions that count.