Dating Advice. Help Reeealy Needed!?
So here’s my situation. In high school I was pretty big (and by big I mean fat). Well, I went to a high school where looks were everything and thus I was sort of an outcast. So with this in mind, I never really had any friends and kept to myself a lot and, well, essentially became what would be considered a social awkward and a lone wolf. So now to the present, I’m currently in an top-tier school in the northeast (not being very social I kept up good grades) and lost quite a bit of weight (though I’m still on the bigger side, but happy nonetheless). I have friends (that’s a surprise) but none of them I’m really close too. it’s more along the line I’m highly respected by my peers. But I still maintain that socially awkward and lonewolf status and am usually by myself in the library and keeping to myself. Well, anyways there’s this girl, she’s a freshman and myself a sophmore, whom I always see. I mean we live in the same dorm building, part of a religious prayer group together, both attend the same general music recitals, convocations, etc., and she’s always in the library. I kind of fell in love the first at first sight at the beginning of the year and that feeling really hasn’t quavered. But I never approached her and always admired her from afar, despite us always seeing each other. Well, in the second term of the second semester, she actually introduced herself to me (something of which I did not expect) and now we’re acquainted. She’s always generally happy to see me, always smiling, waving, or acknowledging me when I see her. But me being the way I am, she always says “hi” and I reply “hi” back and that’s about it. I can never carry on a conversation. Now I’m afraid she’s losing interest or I’m too late because of my social awkwardness. I’d really like to get to know her better as I’m assuming we have a lot in common. But I honestly am scared to approach her as I consider herself out of my league with he thought of mind that I’m big and ugly because of my high school life. She’s also a bit more popular with me and I don’t really like acknowledging her when she’s in a group as I don’t know the people and afraid they’ll make fun of her for knowing me. And because I see her so often, I’ll often ignore her because I see her so much and don’t want he to think I’m stalking her and also because I don’t know what to say and choke up and m voice usually goes high pitched. Finals are the week after next and I’m afraid I’ll never see her again next year, or not as often. So yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated on what I should do to get to know her better or how to ask her out (if that’d be even an ok option).
Chandra1 says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 2:18 am
It seems to me that this girl is giving you every sign possible to let you know that she’s interested in you. I don’t necessarily think that she’s losing interest, but it can be hard on the ego when it doesn’t seem that your efforts are being rewarded, you know. Talking to a girl is the same as talking to anyone else, you just do it. Though your concerns are valid and even considered kind, you’re gonna have to do something soon or you will risk losing her interest, or worse…The best thing I can tell about your experience in high school is that it is over! High school is hell for many people, but there’s no reason to continue to carry that around with you. Why, you could even consider that the old you has gone with the weight. You only live once, so Carpe Diem!!! Make your life worth living. Best of luck to you!
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February 3rd, 2010 at 7:55 am
you should ask her out in person if you’re confident enough but if you’re not, a letter would be nice or an email and make sure that it’s something romantic and special. good luck hon! =)
Obamania says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:17 am
Just be patient it will all work out. It always does.
Rohan C says:
February 3rd, 2010 at 5:33 pm
Getting te courage to start a conversation is gonna be key to getting to the going out stage I think!
Just asking how her studies are going, or even *what* she’s studying if she hasn’t told you already. If you’re lucky she will have realised you’re a little awkward and once you show enough interest to *start* the conversation, she’ll help keep it going, I expect you’ll find once you’ve got talking, it’ll be easy…
Good luck!
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February 3rd, 2010 at 6:50 pm
I say don’t hesitate because if you may not see her then the only thing you can loose is well…her! so go for it obviously she is a nice person if she is introducing herself (which is pretty rare now-a-days) so go for it! good luck, I hope I helped!
Mitch says:
February 4th, 2010 at 1:46 am
1. have a little more confidence in your self, you sound more big hearted that big bodied.
2. dont be afraid to get to know her, as a conversation starter just say hey whats up? or anything interesting hapen to you today? girls love to talk about them selfs and like it when guys are interested. you dont have to talk just lisen
3. Y should you care what other people think of you, if anyone makes fun of your looks just say “atleast i dont have to make fun of others to feel better about my self”, and if you do say that then it would be true.
dont be feeling down on your self. i can tell by what your saying that your a swell guy, and that she has some interest in you if she introduced hereself to you. its a start. your not going to get anywere with this girl if you dont even talk to her. i hope this helps and good luck
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February 4th, 2010 at 7:58 am
go for it. my theory is when your old and gray is this something your going to regret not doing. you can take the chance of being embarrassed for a short period of time or defiantly live with regret forever…your call.
VT says:
February 4th, 2010 at 11:25 am
Yes I agree, you should definitely ask her out. But also realize that you have nothing to lose. If you don’t take that one chance, you might lose it forever, which you seem to realize. So, go and take that chance, if she really really likes you, then she will be able to overlook you social awkwardness. It’s just a matter of taking a chance and putting yourself out there.
(Ask her out to coffee or something.)