Dating Advice - Now May Not Be The Best Time For Her?
An amazing girl asked me out: she’s gorgeous, sweet and caring, very smart, and we have a lot in common. The two of us are very compatible and have really nice conversations together. I made her laugh and smile a lot on our coffee date, and she gave me butterflies in my heart. At the end, she gave me a tight hug, told me to e-mail her, and told me she’d see me soon.
She told me she had a nice time with me the next morning. I asked her out for a second date (through e-mail; we met on match.com), but I heard nothing in a month. I found out one of her parents is very ill, she has financial difficulties, and she’s very busy with grad school. She’s probably stressed, sad, and overwhelmed, and now is doubtfully a good time for dating with everything that has happened.
What do I do? I don’t want to forget about her and move on because I felt we connected pretty strongly; girls like her are rare and hard to come by, and I really liked our connection.
At the same time, the more time that passes without us communicating, the more the bond and connection between us weakens.
She never told me about any of this; I found out because we’re grad students (different programs, same university) and overheard two of her friends talking. She hasn’t replied to my two e-mails; one asking her out right after our date, and one two weeks later just making casual talk and asking how things are going.
Do I wait for her to contact me, try to make small talk again in a month, let her go entirely…?
Peregrin says:
January 26th, 2010 at 11:41 pm
just be there for her
even if it’s behind the scenes
don’t come on too strong though
just let her know you care
and that you’re there for the right reasons
Tiara M says:
January 27th, 2010 at 3:01 am
Send a final text telling her that you tried to contact her several times. That she must be busy. Let her know that If she needs you, needs anything, you will try to be there. S P A C E…give her this! Be kind, we all are dealing with something!
The very bottom line may be that she is just not into you!
2Lucious says:
January 27th, 2010 at 6:24 am
She probably hasn’t had time to check or reply to any email. Find a way to let her know you are thinking of her via through a friend, phone call, going to where she spends alot of time, and would like to be considered for another date in the future, and leave it there.
She really has a lot on her plate right now!