Dating Advice Please ?!?
okay so im 14 and hes 16 and we have been talking to each other for a while and hes so sweet and says things like im so pretty. but like he does drugs and got expelled when he was a freshman but some people say stay away
but idk. he told me he promises that he quit weed and idk. is he lying ? dont older guys just try to get inside girls pants? i told him that and he said no hes not like that.
ahhh what do i do ?
Tia:D says:
February 27th, 2010 at 11:53 pm
Well, I would say it’s up to your gut. Have you actually met him? It’s usually easy to tell the guy’s intentions when you meet them. But if you haven’t I would bring friends just in case. That way he cant attack you. But that doesn’t mean he couldn’t be a nice guy. It could go either way. And I agree with another answer I saw. Usually when there is drugs involved it’s a lot of drama. They ask you not to leave them because they need help, and they need you to help them through it. And it’s just a lie. They usually don’t want to even quit. And when people do drugs they could lose control. He could hurt you. I would just back out. Lots of fish in the sea, right?
xdkirbyx says:
February 28th, 2010 at 5:56 am
try talking to him more often and tell him how you feel but don’t crush your crush with so much deep feeling cause men aren’t like women who can take in this stuff in. chatting with him more will let you see him better and how he is
stay a foot away though because he might be lying or maybe he isn’t ( metaphorically)
use your own thoughts and try to figure out if hes lying and sometimes people who takes drugs are people who are stressed but you have to see his point of view and a lot of people judge other people to fast like telling you to stay away from him ( which is a good advice) but maybe even of he does drugs doesn’t mean hes a nice man right
Simply, Sierra says:
February 28th, 2010 at 9:06 am
Maybe you should date him just to see for yourself? If he says he’ll quit weed for you then try dating him. If he doesn’t quit weed, break up with him.
If you do decide to date him, its not like you HAVE to stay with him forever. You can date him and see how things go. If you don’t like the way things are then you don’t need to stay with him.
Good luck.
wing1500 says:
February 28th, 2010 at 10:21 am
What world are you in.
I’m a guy and at 16 all I could think about is what’s in the pants.
Your 14 you believe you know everything. You got a tough road ahead for you if your that gullible. A very disappointing one.
he’s buttering you up with the your so pretty.
I see that you say idk That is not the truth. otherwise you would not ask this question.
Take it slow. Never let him pressure you into anything.
If you want TEST HIM. when he try’s to get in your pants. Say no. Do that three times on three different attempts.
If he dumps you he only wanted what is in your pants. But if he stays with you. You have a keeper.
Your Raw Food Life says:
February 28th, 2010 at 10:21 am
Clearly, you have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone like him. Is it the bad guy image that you’re attracted to? I’m going to tell you this: when he’s clean and clear of week for at least 6 months, then you can consider being with him. Until then, stay away!
PS: the awful truth is YES most guys will say anything and do anything for sex. It’s in our nature unfortunately. We were bred like this.
Joseph says:
February 28th, 2010 at 11:09 am
be care full i know people who do weed and once they start it is very hard to stop, no offence but this guy sounds like a low life loser and has nothing going for him no education and he does drugs, it doesn’t sound like he has a future. my honest opinion don’t waste your time save a mistake and alot of regret, dont get with him and stay away. you would probably get hurt, your very young and you probably have alot going for you, dont blow it now.
hope helped and think about it long and hard what ever you choose to do, i just know people who have been with guys like that and there all same.
clintand says:
February 28th, 2010 at 4:27 pm
This guy sounds like a loser, be smart and date someone who doesn’t try to imitate a gangster lifestyle to look cool, you are 14! if you are worried he wants in your pants and you think you could be pressured into sex, then tell him to piss off and go find some whore.. it’s not that hard. Find a guy that has goals for the future, not someone who’s future is prison.
Jeff says:
February 28th, 2010 at 9:18 pm
Keep encouraging him to quit i have too many friends who have screwed up their lives by using drugs. First all they were doing was a lil weed next thing you know there on the perscription meds after that its cocain and then it just keeps gettin worse. And every one of them all said they were gona quit.
erica.ba says:
March 1st, 2010 at 2:37 am
ok ive heard guys say that over and over and over.
there all the same.
and hes definately lieing to you.
but i knw ur attracted.
i know ive been there and you do it anyways despite what everyone says.
but trust me thats how i lost my virginity was with a guy telling me things like that and he also did drugs,
but i was so attracted to him that i didnt care,
but i can tell you that it ended up being the biggest mistake of my life.
no lie.
good luck,
i hope you make the right choice!
briannnna (: says:
March 1st, 2010 at 4:52 am
i went through the same thing this year. him doing drugs and getting expelled definitly isnt a plus, but you shouldnt judge him completely from that. just hang out with him a few times first, see if his real intentions are to get to know you or to just get in your pants.
gerald g says:
March 1st, 2010 at 7:46 am
he a problem case run from him as fast as you can i mean what kinda realshonship could u have with him he cant get a good job without a diploma thats no future be nice break it off besides your to young to be drug thru like you will be and oh yeah try putting a penny between your knees and keeping it there
Jessica says:
March 1st, 2010 at 9:25 am
ye he’s lying. my ex boyfriend is the SAME EXACT GUY. he dropped out of school and always did drugs but he told me he stopped for me… blah blah blah. long story short, he just got out of jail. lol so if i were you then i’d stay away from guys like that. they’ll never amount to anything
Rafael says:
March 1st, 2010 at 1:50 pm
I’m 18 and honestly I would say the best thing to do is to find someone your own age group, or just wait. If you really do think he is a good guy then just keep talking to him, there is no need to rush things, you are young and still have a lot of time ahead of you.
Geli says:
March 1st, 2010 at 2:51 pm
Every guy is going to try to get into your pants, it’s their nature, it depends on you if you let him and ofcourse none of them is going to admit to it… be smart and stay away. That boy has trouble written all over his forehead.
Linda25 says:
March 1st, 2010 at 5:40 pm
Well if you feel he’s lying to you, then he probably is. If he’s that much trouble and getting kicked out of school, he may not be the right person for you. I would say find someone better.
Lewis Jamieson says:
March 1st, 2010 at 10:21 pm
Drugies are a low, if i was you id give him a pass youl only end up crying in a few weeks over something hes done, not worth the hastle. go find another man, make sure the only drug he takes is parocetemol lmao gl.
D1Chung ???g?? says:
March 1st, 2010 at 10:38 pm
date him and:
-go to jail
-he’ll get in ur pants
-drop outa school
-u get addicted to weed too
-u become a single mother
-ur life goes down
-may have to sell ur body for money to support ur child n urself
dont date him:
-dont go to jail
-find better people out there
-have gud fun
-finish school
-have a better life
n.johnso says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 2:20 am
i wouldn’t get involved with him, but just so you are not shocked, EVERY HIGHSCHOOL BOY is going to do weed! at least once, but they all do it, its just something you have to get used to.
BalletForever <3 says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 6:49 am
Don’t date him. If he says he’s going to quit drugs, tell him to quit before you start dating him. But I think he’s trying to get in your pants. Forget about him.
? says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 7:33 am
girl DO NOT DATE HIM!!!!
HES BAD NEWS!! MY ex BF was sort of like that except he didnt do drugs…PIOINT IS HE just wants sex…
? says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 8:51 am
I would tell you to stay away he only wants in your pants
Katie says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 11:45 am
stay away from him if he does drugs before he pressures you into doing drugs
aljliegh says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Do NOT date him. It is extremely hard to quit a drug abuse and you do not need to be in a relationship with him.
Sapna K says:
March 2nd, 2010 at 6:58 pm
Don’t just Advice, use it too, stay away from such guys
ItWasAKi says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 1:11 am
RUN AWAY dear!
dbraunof says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 8:05 am
Don’t be a fool. Stay away from this guy.
Eric says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 10:09 am
ur gut feeling is prolly right. not to be harsh but guys will lie to get in your pants.
Mufasa says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 3:28 pm
YOUR GOING TO JAIL
Batman says:
March 3rd, 2010 at 8:24 pm
Sounds like someones trying to get into your pants. xD
Niale says:
March 4th, 2010 at 2:07 am
find anotha man
raverr :D says:
March 4th, 2010 at 3:09 am
well you know him so make you desion ….you see your self in 2 weeks he he in the picture
help me???