How to get a girlfriend

As discussed earlier, the dating game is played by three categories of people: Casual daters, Players and Serious relationship seekers.

The three groups are not exclusive to any one gender. The media has, in the past, always portrayed only men as the players. But as we all know, it is not just men, but also women, who are players. There are many Hollywood female celebrities who are prime examples of this player category.

It is easy to see that there is no difference between the number of single women and the number of single men who are players. The often-used label “”player can apply to men or women.

Why is this? Well, we do know that sexual mores have changed over the years and now younger people are participating in all kinds of sexual activities together. Even in high school there are sex clubs for both girls and boys.

When these young people get into their twenties, they don’t change behaviors all that much. They say it’s easier to hook up than to actually ask someone on a real date. They don’t want strings, whether they’re young men or young women. They just want to experiment and have fun.

This was not how it was in the past. In earlier times, women were not seen as players. That was more a label reserved for men. When it came to dating, there was more propriety followed by single men and women. In those days, unmarried men and women had friends of their own gender who got together for shared interests, such as going to the cinema, hiking or dining together. Behavior like casual dating did not exist back in those days.

When it comes to settling down, though, a woman’s biological clock will still sometimes make her put pressure on the man, or at least that will be his perspective on things.

However, even men are affected by the “biological clock’ syndrome, although it happens a little later in their lives. Usually, when men enter their forties, they have a need to be in a long-term relationship.

Jerusha Stewart is a published expert and nationally-recognized speaker on the single life. Her site on Single Life After 40 shares a wealth of resources on how to live and love into your 40s, 50s, and beyond.

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