Guys Only, I Need Dating Advice!?
i ran into an old neighbor the other day and he told me to facebook him. i did, and we have been chatting on there for a while. we hung out last night at his house with a few of his other friends and i think things went well. this is the message i wrote to him tonight, please tell me what you would think if you were him. constructive criticism only please. i am already unsure, so don’t make me feel like an a**. THANKS!
“ok, everyone advised me against doing this, but i just really feel the need. to be completely honest, i have been dating someone for the last almost 4 years. i have actually been trying to get out of the relationship for 2 of those years. it’s a long story that if you care to know, i can tell you in person; but for the record, we are not together.
so obviously i have been out of the dating world for quite some time now. i’ve always been the “aggressor” in dating/relationships, and don’t really like to play the whole wait 2 days before calling, wait 2 weeks before having “the talk” games.
i didn’t want to write this, because i don’t want you to think i am one of “those” clingy/needy girls, but i just feel like i should let you know some things and i would also like to ask you a few things.
i had forgotten what it felt like to get butterflies when someone calls, or to blush when someone mentions your “crush.” but ever since the other day at the bookstore, that is how i’ve felt about you.
like i said, i don’t want to put any pressure on you, because you said your divorce wasn’t that long ago, and we have only been talking again for such a short amount of time.
last night at your house i had a lot of fun, and i hope you did too. now, the hard part. it was kind of awkward, because i didn’t really know how to act/what role to play, especially when you walked me to the car. you kept introducing me as your old neighbor, but then you also kept mentioning places we should go/things we should do together. i mean i tried to get some clues out of you by asking if you were dating anyone, and you said you weren’t really in the “going out all the time” stage of your life anymore.
i definitely don’t want this to sound like the “what are we” speech, but i was just wondering if you think of us as just two old friends hanging out again, or if you want something more than that. i’m completely fine with whatever you decide, i’d just like to know. obviously i’ve had a good time talking with you/seeing you again and would like to spend more time with you, but i really understand if that’s not where you were going with this.
sorry i wrote you this long *** message, but i feel like i can communicate better when i have time to actually think about what i want to say, and maybe avoid awkward silences if this had been on the phone. lol. plus i knew you were with your friends and thought you might like time to think before replying as well.
well, i hope i haven’t put you on the spot, made you feel awkward, or changed how you feel about me, but i think in the end it is just better for both of us if we are on the same page. hope to hear from you soon.”
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February 6th, 2010 at 7:57 am
i think your letter was very well worded and you said what you needed to say to remove the ambiguity from your possible relationship. i hope he takes it well, i am sure that if he is interested in you he will be receptive to your feelings. good luck!