I Have A Girlfriend (sort Of). Her Parents Don’t Believe In Dating, I’m 19, She’s 18. Advice?
We dated for a couple of years, and we hid it from her parents. We never did anything “bad,” her parents just didn’t think she was ready to date. This was in 10th grade! In the middle of 11th, her parents found out that we were dating, so they pulled her from that school. Then, at the end of the year, I heard that if I left, she could come back. So, since I felt it was my fault, I went to another school. (I had a great senior year). We quit talking for almost a year, then we saw each other at a graduation party, and now we’re “dating” again. She’s going to UGA and I’m joining the dekalb police, and her parents still don’t think she’s ready to date. We’ve been talking through facebook, and talked about talking to her parents about being . Now, she says she feels guilty for talking to me behind her parents backs. So, what should I do?
Jessica H says:
July 13th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
Maybe the thing is that they don’t believe in dating, but the fact they believe “courting” is a better way. (dating with rules, basically)
Try to speak - together - with her parents and be honest about your feelings toward her and expressing your desire to respect her and her parents. Sadly, I’m not sure how great it will be for you guys if you tell about the deception and even more horrible if they found out.
Hope that helps!
Hothorse says:
July 13th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
wowww. thats super lame. im younger than that and i think its bogus im not aloud to date!
if shes 18 then i say forget her stupid parents! u guyz are adults. thats insane. wen is the rite time to date..40?
Katz says:
July 14th, 2010 at 3:20 am
I think your girlfriend has a real problem with her parents. They sound very controlling. I’d be afraid of what their reaction would be if they find out again. I really don’t think talking to her parents will help. It probably will make things worse. Normally I wouldn’t say that but in this case I’m afraid it is so - it will only make things worse.
18 is plenty old to be dating. I’m betting your girlfriend is afraid of her folks or is it her father? If she is afraid maybe she needs to seek professional help. She is also old enough to live on her own, providing she has a job but my guess papa? probably wouldn’t allow that either.
You have a real problem. Watch your back