Comments on: I Have A Girlfriend (sort Of). Her Parents Don’t Believe In Dating, I’m 19, She’s 18. Advice?

By: Katz

Katz — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 03:20:16 +0000

I think your girlfriend has a real problem with her parents. They sound very controlling. I’d be afraid of what their reaction would be if they find out again. I really don’t think talking to her parents will help. It probably will make things worse. Normally I wouldn’t say that but in this case I’m afraid it is so - it will only make things worse.
18 is plenty old to be dating. I’m betting your girlfriend is afraid of her folks or is it her father? If she is afraid maybe she needs to seek professional help. She is also old enough to live on her own, providing she has a job but my guess papa? probably wouldn’t allow that either.
You have a real problem. Watch your back

By: Hothorse

Hothorse — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:03:13 +0000

wowww. thats super lame. im younger than that and i think its bogus im not aloud to date!
if shes 18 then i say forget her stupid parents! u guyz are adults. thats insane. wen is the rite time to date..40?

By: Jessica H

Jessica H — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 14:36:54 +0000

Maybe the thing is that they don’t believe in dating, but the fact they believe “courting” is a better way. (dating with rules, basically)
Try to speak - together - with her parents and be honest about your feelings toward her and expressing your desire to respect her and her parents. Sadly, I’m not sure how great it will be for you guys if you tell about the deception and even more horrible if they found out.
Hope that helps!