Nerd Seeking Dating Advice, All Are Welcome To Answer?
I work at the local grocery store, where I have recently met this girl.
We kind of exchange comments every so often, but nothing of importance. ALL business related “chit-chat”
Anyway, I have finally decided to “man-up” and ask this girl out. I know for a fact that shes single.
I myself, am around 5′10 and weigh like . . . 185 pounds. I would consider myself to be good looking, nothing fancy just typical.
This girl is really AMAZING, shes doesn’t even wear make-up and yet she has the face of a Goddess. I am so amazed by her that I want to shake her fathers hand, lol.
So, basically I need some advice.
What should I say to her ?
Should I ask her out at work or outside of work ?
Where should we go ?
I’m sooo LOST !!
I just turned 18 and I have never had a date, I’ve just been so wrapped up in school and taking care of my mom, etc.
But, now that I have free time I’d like to date.
PLEASE ANY TIPS ARE WELCOME !
uk wholesalers says:
December 30th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
don’t make it weird…. if you ask her as an employee, and she says no, you have to work With her day in and day out, knowing she turned you down, and that may hurt your work performance.
you should start as friends, hang out as friends, then go from there.
i would ask her if she free this weekend, you wanted to go put-put golfing, and you buds out of town, and you were wondering if she would like to go as friends….. she can turn down the friend invite, just by saying she is no avil. and when you go to work the next day, you can still talk, because you never asked her on a real boyfriend and girlfriend date… understand..
once you get more one-on -one time, you will learn her more, and you will also see if she likes you. take her jesters and smiles into consideration, because most girls flirt,and play hard to get,
Dizzy says:
December 30th, 2009 at 11:02 pm
I would ask her out at the end of the day for a coffee. Dinner seems too formal, unless you have something more fun in mind, like a stroll along the boardwalk with ice cream. Do something fun and casual so you can talk and find out if her goddess face matches a goddess attitude.
also, when you’re asking her out, don’t be nervous. Just ask her as if it’s no big deal. In essence, it isn’t really all that big a deal anyway, it’s just coffee (or ice cream). So relax, be friendly and have fun! Good luck, you sound like a really cool guy btw.
Morbid One says:
December 31st, 2009 at 12:09 am
Look for a common interest, like a band coming to town or a movie she’d like to see, and then invite her to join you in seeing it. Don’t necessarily word it as a “romantic thing,” but just as something you’d like to spend time with her doing. If she says yes, you’re one step closer, at least she’s willing to spend time with you outside of work. If she says no, you didn’t go too far out on a limb…
Lisa V says:
December 31st, 2009 at 6:03 am
This could be rough because if she says she just wants to be friends you still have to work with her. I would start out by asking her to do something like friends do ( like buy her dinner after work ) then talk to her more one on one. See what shes interested in. Notice things about her like her eyes, shoes, outfit etc..girls like when people notice them. Be confident. and good luck. Let us all know how it works out.
tatersma says:
December 31st, 2009 at 8:54 am
Take a minute whether at work or not and ask her to dinner. Then if she says yes, go have a nice dinner and that way you can talk and get to know each other.
Let us know how it turns out. Good luck!
Brown Chicken Brown Cow says:
December 31st, 2009 at 10:05 am
Outside of work and do the typical date thing for an 18yr old.
Movie and dinner.
You will be fine now that you have “manned up”
Go gettem’ tiger.
Lord of The Morning says:
December 31st, 2009 at 4:13 pm
Ask towards the end of the day. Say that you are thinking of doing…..whatever and were wondering if she would like to come. Get a coffee, go for a drink, see wall-e, whatever. Don’t hover, be casual. Smile
~Ben~ says:
December 31st, 2009 at 10:24 pm
just go up to her and ask her out to lunch,
from what you’ve said you really like and if you don’t ask her soon it might be to. trust me
A says:
January 1st, 2010 at 3:15 am
If no one is in the shop next time she comes in just ask her casually if she’d like to go for a coffee when you have finished work.
spencer_ says:
January 1st, 2010 at 6:44 am
don’t ask her out at work. and when you do, don’t try to make the date all romantic or whatever. just casual.
DJ says:
January 1st, 2010 at 11:26 am
Ask her out for coffee. That is less difficult than dinner. Just focus on getting to know her.
Free Wordpress Plugins says:
January 1st, 2010 at 3:55 pm
outside
Enticing says:
January 1st, 2010 at 6:44 pm
Ask her out for lunch, don’t be shy just do it!
Mitch says:
January 1st, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Just ask her if she’d like to go have some coffee with you, see a movie with you (something you think she’d like to do), or eat out with you and just act like yourself ( I cannot emphasize the importance of acting like yourself ). Don’t wear anything bland but don’t go too dressy, just go casual. Only date every few weeks but call her sometimes, (not too often). You can hang out every few days or whatever works for you two.
Last but not least, trust her when she’s with other guys and don’t get jealous or feel the need to be involved in everything she does.
Lydia says:
January 1st, 2010 at 8:38 pm
First of all give her compliments, nothing too personal “I like your hair”
for example and let her thank you she’ll probably start talking about her conditioner. Let her talk and the next time she comes in ask her what type of music she likes and ask her if she fancies going to see a band with you. I don’t know what she’s into but you can generally tell by the way people dress.
It doesn’t have to music related of course you could ask her what type of movies she likes and go from there just as easily.
Good luck
inquiring mind says:
January 1st, 2010 at 10:00 pm
If possible see if you can coordinate your lunch breaks together–baby steps–but be charming, funny, and make sure the conversation haseven exchanges (you aren’t talking to much nor is she). Try to get to know her, stay away from work chatter.
When lunch is coming to a close, say something like “that was refreshing, lemme know if you wanna do that again sometime, or even out of work”
if she says yes, take her number, and don’t do that 3 day rule for calling; we hate it. Call the day you get her number, but just keep it short (2-3 min). Goodluck!