Never Thought I Would Ask For Dating Advice On Here… Is He Sick Of Me?
I have been dating a guy long distance since summer. We live 5 hours apart, so we see each other only a few days a month. I recently spent a few days with him, which went well- maybe not as amazingly as some of our weekends together- but overall, nothing seemed amiss. He left for work on Saturday morning, showered me with kisses, and left me a bag of gourmet tea with a note to take it home with me. I slept in, cleaned his kitchen, made him guacamole, and thought I would get a nice phone call when he got home. No. That evening, after driving home, I was at a party and left him a fun drunk message, and assumed that he would definately call me Sunday, but no. I called him Sunday evening, and we had a short conversation. He thanked me for cleaning, said my message was fun, but he didn’t have much to say. The conversation was short and a little awkward, but again, nothing amiss on the surface, but I have a feeling of dread that something is wrong and he is tired of me. Am I just paranoid?
jgilbert says:
February 16th, 2010 at 8:19 am
why dont you ask him if he is tired of you and you dont have to have mind games with yourself .. you could have caught him on a bad day and he told you he didnt have much to say and guys are not big talkers and he just saw you anyway .. if that went fine all week end then there is nothing to worry about
Laurie K says:
February 16th, 2010 at 12:39 pm
It doesn’t sound like he’s tired of you, just that he feels the relationship has run it’s course. Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain and after a while people start looking a little closer to home for someone to spend their time with. You need to set aside some time and talk things out with him, being as direct and specific as you can so that there are no misunderstandings when you are done.
i_m_kt says:
February 16th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Most men are very visual and the rule “out of sight, out of mind” was probably created by a man. Unless you plan on moving near him soon I would suggest dumbing him. He’s probably just using you as an insurance policy and has someone else, or wants to have someone else, on the side. Long distance relationships do not work. Do yourself a favor and find someone that gives you attention in person. It will be a hundred times better.
Kyle says:
February 16th, 2010 at 4:03 pm
Men are pretty bad about doing this sort of thing. They don’t know how to tell you that there is someone else they’re wanting to chase, so they start acting less interested, hoping you’ll find someone else too and make it all so easy on them. Of course, once you DO find someone else, they will suddenly find themselves yearning and pining for you. If you want yearning and pining, find someone else. It might wake him up to the great girl he’s losing. Don’t do anything nice for him anymore. He will not wake up and appreciate it. Just find someone else and play it up and let him know you’re not going to be there anymore, so sorry. Watch the magic begin.
Ruby says:
February 16th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
i think its impossible for us to know whats going on in his head so just go with the flow, if he wants u he’ll contact u, u dont want to seem like one of those despret clingy women, so just act cool
geordie says:
February 17th, 2010 at 12:52 am
Ok wel from my experiance,ur stupid u need 2 chil grab him and kiss the boy,besides there all twats buy a vibrator most women do,hahahahah 3/6 lol good luck!
Heavy Metal Bands says:
February 17th, 2010 at 7:44 am
You live five hours apart. You honestly can’t think that this would work. Sorry but unless you have known someone for a long time, this sort of thing just doesn’t work.
Claude says:
February 17th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
he doesnt want your strings attached..