Question About “those Who Are Not Single’s” Dating Advice?
I am starting to think about the possiblity of making myself available to date. I am 22 years old and I’ve never even been asked out on a date - so my experience is non-existant. I am a little cautious about dating because I don’t want to make any big mistakes resulting in cynicism from a broken heart and other casualties of the dating game (war, in some people’s books). Now, while I’ve been thinking about it, I’ve gone to several friends and family members to ask their opinion and to share their stories with me, so I can have an idea on how this could pan out - you know, those “if I knew then what I know now” stories. They’ve been really helpful.
One thing I have been getting consistently is just not to do it. Now, everyone has given me great reasons, but I find it hard to believe that relationships are all THAT bad, especially since the people who are telling me not to date ARE ALL IN A RELATIONSHIP! One of my friends even told me that she couldn’t stand her serious relationship, broke up with her boyfriend (swearing him off) and now, they’re back together. (Mind you, this is all in a month’s time.)
So, will someone tell me, if everyone wishes so much to NOT be in a relationship, and are telling me that it’s not worth the trouble, why don’t they just leave their guy and be free of the woes of a relationship? Or IS it worth it? If so, why are they telling me it’s not?
FYI - I’ve come right out and asked one of my closer friends and she just couldn’t tell me. As a matter of fact, she started talking about all of the great qualities of her husband!
Haruka says:
February 12th, 2010 at 5:49 am
They’re just remembering all the bad times they’ve had in relationships. But really, they should’ve been better friends and given you a more balanced idea.
You’re inevitably going to have bad relationships, but the fear of those shouldn’t keep you from trying. Because you WILL find good people (even if you don’t end up marrying them.)
I’ve been in 3 relationships, all different from each other, and there has been heartbreak, but moving on is just a part of it, and a part of life.
So go for it!
Veronica says:
February 12th, 2010 at 5:53 am
Honesly sweety if you fidn the RIGHT person you’ll be happy, ive been maried a little over a year now and im so irrationally happy it’s ridiculous!. You just have to find the right one, and until you start looking you wont find him….
Jessi says:
February 12th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
ask someone out…don’t wait for them to ask you…
please answer mine if you can help…anyone…please…
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Alme98MlZxYfQz9XdwFkTI3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091003121144AA4Hja4
Curious says:
February 12th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
Forget what everyone is saying. The only way you’ll know for sure is to go through with the experience.
spanish mortgages says:
February 12th, 2010 at 5:35 pm
You can’t be afraid of getting your heart broken or you will NEVER find happiness with someone. You should make yourself available to date. When you find someone you love, it IS worth, even if you get your heartbroken. I just got out of the best relationship I have ever been in and I don’t regret a thing. I’m still extremely heartbroken, but I’m happy I had him in my life when I did. No matter what, you are going to learn and it will help you in the future. It hurts, but it’s nothing you can’t get over.
Windows Mobile smartphones says:
February 12th, 2010 at 7:57 pm
its basically their own personal opinion..everyone has their own stories to tell..no matter what they tell u, a relationship will come with its ups and downs..a perfect relationship is when u completely get along with the person, no fights, no disagreements..such a relationship doesnt exist..in my opinion every normal relationship might have fights and arguments..its kinda just comes with it..u cant agree on everything..whether u can deal with the “downs” is up 2 u..to some people they say its not worth it…but its good to be in a relationship cause u have someone that loves u and supports and is there for u..sure u got friends and family for that too..but its a little different…
in ur case u should put urself out there and go out on dates and experience it..if u constantly going to put up a wall, u will never go out and will never find anyone..and yea u might have to deal with a broken heart..but it will only make u stronger and u learn from ur mistakes..u wont how it feels unless u actually experience it