Why Am I Single? If Anyone Has Any Dating Advice At All For Me?
About a year ago I ended a 4 year long relationship with a horrible man. Cheated on me, was drunk all the time, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive… And so I began my life as a single girl.
I met some people, dated my fair share… and yet… I can’t seem to get anything to last longer than 3-4 months at the most.
For the most part it is me having freak-outs about where I am going in life, and is this the right person, and on and on and on… am I normal? is it too soon for me to be dating? Does anyone have any advice at all?
I’m 25 years old, going to be graduating college in a couple months. I’m not sure if either I’m going to go on to university, or I’m just going to try my luck starting my career now.
I would like to meet someone… and I’m getting sick of myself pushing all the good guys away…
TwiggyNg says:
December 23rd, 2009 at 9:46 pm
I think its time you stopped beating yourself up. You sound like you probably have everything going for you. You are only 25. you are about to graduate, you are no longer in a crappy relationship and you are free to do what ever you want in life. Maybe you could just work on yourself for a while. Forget about dating for a bit and work out where you are now and where you want to be. University or career, or why not even travel? Some times getting away for a little while can put everything into perspective. Make the most of being single for now. Be happy with it. It is a good time for you to focus on what you want in life. You will probably have more head space to make good decisions and do things for you. The happier you are with yourself the more attractive you will be to Mr Right. Take care and good luck!
Stacey B says:
December 23rd, 2009 at 11:58 pm
Yes,you are normal alot of people think like that,but you shouldn’t stress yourself out so much.I think the fact that your dating is fine since it will bring you closer to your soul mate. Your still young so just have fun (hehe that rhymes). Try not to focus on dating,so much,just hang out with your friends,and if you happen to find someone you want to date then go for it. You only life once,and you wont be single forever.
Squid says:
December 24th, 2009 at 6:17 am
The only reason your single is that you just havnt met the right person yet. Or you could have a personality flaw- ask a trusted friend. If you have trouble meeting people try a dating website. There are lots of good free ones online.
You are only 25 so dont start to freak out.
Rosie Hardy™ says:
December 24th, 2009 at 10:49 am
that’s your problem you need to stop worrying about a guy
live your life to the fullest now that you’re young..and when the right guy comes along you’ll know!..you’ll have the butterflies in your stomach,your eye’s will glow brighter then they ever glowed before,and you’ll just know…but until then live it up girl! and stop worrying
talesofa says:
December 24th, 2009 at 3:24 pm
Wait until you finish college. Then go out and have fun with friends; don’t worry about a guy. People may be more attracted to you when you’re having fun over you sitting there worrying about it! Relax, enjoy life and let the right guy come to you!
Fox Kid says:
December 24th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
Stop rushing everything. Play the field and get in touch with your sexuality.
? Im just saying.. says:
December 25th, 2009 at 12:31 am
finish school and start your career and then worry about a guy..
don’t stress about it now
Rob S says:
December 25th, 2009 at 3:10 am
First of all you may have plenty of time for relationships your young enough to just enjoy life with friendships until you figure yourself out, without complicating things trying to get to know and please somebody else. Trust me I know first hand. Secondly, relationships take two whole people and that is where getting to know yourself comes into play. Simply put, a flower blooms from a seed being planted in the ground but it needs another whole thing to make it grow and that is water. Once the water hits the ground it gets to the seed and come together to make one thing a plant and some grow beautifully together and others don’t. This is the same in a relationship, you have two whole people and they may grow together beautifully or find out their not the same but, either way its less stressful for both. Hope this helps!