How To Calm Down My Girlfriend For Surgery?
My girlfriend is getting surgery in 2 weeks and she is making me crazy because she thinks it is going to go wrong. I know it won’t and I keep telling her that but it doesn’t help.
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Mr Amazing says:
February 15th, 2010 at 12:05 am
Plan something for her. Depending on the type of surgery–how long she will have to be in the hospital, etc.–you should plan something extravagant that she will love. Come up with something big, a plan that shows you care for her, something that she will like to do. Something birthday or anniversary-worthy would be best. Then let her know about it, and help her plan it with you after you’ve already got the bare bones of the plan laid out and taken care of.
If she has something great to look forward to after the surgery, it will give her a distraction and something happy to think of. She needs a reason to look around the figurative wall she has to climb in 2 weeks.
Comfort isn’t comforting in this situation; action and thoughtfulness is.
Jennifer A says:
February 15th, 2010 at 5:32 am
Actually, telling her that everything will be okay does no good if you aren’t really in a position to ensure that. Since you aren’t performing the surgery, it really means nothing. Time and unforseen occurrence befall us all and something bad possibly could happen. You DO need to sit down with her and talk about what will happen on your end IF something bad happens to her. She would probably feel safe if you put it in writing that if she were a vegetable as a result of the surgery that you would still come by every day to read to her or some such thing. Glossing over with a false sense of security won’t help in reality. Go to the hospital with her and let her know you won’t leave. When she makes it out alive and well, you can have a few laughs and go on with your life. Hopefully, you would be much closer for actually communicating over something serious.
Coolwoma says:
February 15th, 2010 at 5:46 am
ive had surgery before and i really freaked out too. surgery is something that makes you worried and feel very vulnerable because you dont know exactly what its going to be like, or what you will feel like after its over. though i found when i asked alot of questions to the doctors and surgeons and figured out everything that was going to happen it made me feel better. maybe it would help her to be well informed. shes probably going to get scared about it again, but dont try to coax her into feeling better about it. simply just be there for her and tell her you’ll do everything she needs you to do after its over
portsmouth bilbao ferry says:
February 15th, 2010 at 8:10 am
do something romantic for her to calm her down and make her feel good!!
i had surgery and my bf (wasn’t then but was soon after) comforted me and made sure i was always ok. he then was there after surgery and was there throughout recovery and still is. let her know that u wont let anything happen to her and just be there. yeah she might be making u crazy but thats what gfs do a lot haha. surgery is scary and help is always needed. good luck
roderick says:
February 15th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
Sit and listen to her concerns. Just repeat what you hear her saying. You don’t have to solve it, she just needs to be heard.
Also, ask her to set a limit on how long she will talk about it on a given day, then move on to other interesting things (distractions). It could be going out for physical activity or to restaurants if her medical condition permits. Or maybe just watch a movie, or reminisce about a pleasant previous time together.
shawn says:
February 15th, 2010 at 2:26 pm
You just really need to comfort her and just be there. Keep telling her that everything will be ok and not to worry.