What Should I Tell My Pregnant Girlfriend In My Letters While I Am In Marines Bootcamp?
What does a girlfriend or a pregnant girlfriend like to hear from a boyfriend who is at bootcamp? She gets sad and lonely without me and I just want to keep her happy. Ladies, any advice would be great.
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Stacy C says:
January 3rd, 2010 at 10:57 pm
That’s really thoughtful of you. She is going to want to hear that you’re doing well- if you’re not, then don’t be too honest about the tough stuff you’re going through. Ask her how she’s feeling, tell her about how excited you are about her and the baby. If I were in her position, I’d love for you to bring up memories from our past together- like you could say, “Remember our first date when I…” and vividly talk about your memories and how happy she makes you feel and always gush about how much you love her and how you can’t wait to see her again.
You can also spray some of your cologne so she can smell you- that’s a huge comfort for girls to be able to smell our guy. Thanks so much for serving and I hope you get home to see her soon.
Kim says:
January 4th, 2010 at 5:17 am
Wow lets see I think I have more than enough experience to answer your question. I am going through our second deployment pregnant and I was also pregnant our first one. I actually had our first daughter without him.
Tell her how sorry you are that she is going through this without you but your doing it so that the three of you can have a better life. Tell her you can’t wait to get out of bootcamp and live in a whole new place with your new family. Let her know that you can’t imagine how hard this is for her and that it’s hard for you to because you really wish you could help her out and go to doctor’s appointments with her. If she send ultrasound pics make a big deal about it you know how cute they were and how happy you are that everything is going great with the baby. She just needs to know that you care about every detail. Her hormones are a mess right now with being pregnant and being without you. When my husband really goes out of his way to show concern and ask questions it makes me feel good. I HATE going to doctor’s appointments and seeing other husbands there with their wives, I’m glad those women have that but it sucks.
Jaylee says:
January 4th, 2010 at 6:44 am
She will just be really glad to hear from you. Keep it light, and make sure you tell her that you are missing her and that you love her. Mostly don’t include all of the things you don’t like that are happening. Its important for her to write you and for you to write her. Both sides should keep things light, and only go in to detail on the bad things that are really important. I think just the fact you take the time to write her will show that you are thinking about her and care about her.
(By light I mean don’t talk about pain or anything near that. Tell her a story about something you found funny. The fact that thinking of her got you through something hard. That you love her and can’t wait to see her again. About some friend you have made. I think you see my point.
Neither side should be writing about all the bad things. It will only make her worry more. She should not write you about all the bad things because you will worry and you need to focus. Talk about the bad stuff after it all unless it is really important.)
Best of Luck.
{Melly}l says:
January 4th, 2010 at 12:42 pm
Thats very sweet of you.
im pregnant with my second and my boyfriends in
the coast gaurd and I love getting letters from him asking
how me and the babys doing.Just make sure to tell
her that you love her and that you miss her.Tell her that
you,her,and the babys going to be together soon and
ask her how the pregnancys going.
Just make sure not to tell her about the bad stuff
your going through there.That will just tear her heart
to pieces since shes pregnant,remember that her hormones
are a mess.
good luck.
mike says:
January 4th, 2010 at 12:56 pm
when i was in bootcamp, the guy in the next rack had a pregnant wife. from what i gathered talking to him, they really just wanted to know what the other was up to, how they were doing, regular conversation stuff. just tell her what you’re doing, anything important that you want to share with her, and ask her about her life while your gone.
Valeriya K says:
January 4th, 2010 at 1:19 pm
“Hi, I love you, and as soon as I get the chance, I’d like to marry you. What do you think of that? Did I mention, I love you?”
That’s what I’d like to see if I were her. Just one girl’s (very) subjective opinion. Because pregnancy= mood swings, depression, much unhappiness. The idea of marriage, if you two are serious, could make her very happy.
Amy S says:
January 4th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
When my son was in boot, I treasured every single letter he sent. The short ones helped.. but the longer ones, with details about what he was going through.. I loved those! You won’t have a lot of time to write, so use it wisely.. maybe just keep a running letter through the week, so if you have a couple minutes each night.. or a couple nights during the week, just jot down that day’s “journal”… and then, on Sunday when you have a couple minutes, you can finish it off, stick a stamp on it, and get going!
If you’re going to do this, my son learned REAL QUICK, that it’s important to keep your writing papers rubber-banded together so when your foot locker gets tossed, they’ll all stay together.
The best thing you can do for both of you is do your very best in boot camp. That means no distractions!! If you allow yourself to spend too much time worrying about her, you’re setting yourself up to fail… and that would be bad for all of you! She’ll have family to lean on… and send her to http://www.marineparents.com It’s the best place for her to meet her new USMC family… The folks on the RECRUIT message boards will help her through it all.. and will help her give you the support you’ll need during boot. (You won’t be in a position to do that while you’re there… so she’ll need their support!! REALLY!!)
smiley says:
January 4th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Just write to her as you would talk to her normally. Make sure you ask her how she is doing, and ask about her pregnancy too. If you are having a bad day, and you are mad or whatever try not to tell her you are unhappy, because she will start stressing out about it. Be sweet with her, and just treat her as you usually would
Heather F says:
January 5th, 2010 at 2:49 am
really its what any girl would want to know about the love of her life.. tell her about your day, about how much you miss her… talk about life afterwards…. my husband and i really just had normal conversations in our letters…. but we would write every day. didnt matter how long it was. we would write every day!
~Susan.M says:
January 5th, 2010 at 5:48 am
just be honest. my husband is in OSUT right now and when he writes i am happy to hear anything. i feel so disconnected from him so when he writes about his day and what he did it is wonderful and helps me to reconnect.
wckc2002 says:
January 5th, 2010 at 8:23 am
Tell her you love her and can’t wait to be together again. Talk about the baby, suggest names, ask about the doctor’s appts, sonagrams, etc.
Bloody Pumpkin says:
January 5th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
It’s not yours.