Love is a mysterious thing. Finding it seems so hard sometimes, yet the steps we need to take to find it are not hard at all. These are what we should focus upon and love will eventually come, if we remain open to it and find it in ourselves, even a little.
You also have to focus on finding love internally in yourself. Some people believe you have to love yourself before you can love others. It is somewhat true, but you do not have to be mad about yourself in order to love somebody else.
You can not demand yourself to be 100% in love with yourself before loving someone, that would be… well… mad. Being content is enough to give you some optimism.
Optimism is the most seeked after guality in people, it comes with sense of humour usually. Optimistic people are more inclined with reality and do more in their lives than others.
Of course, people are different, some people need someone who is not that optimistic and successful. It can be because they feel better with someone who is slightly broken, more human. It takes the pressure of from everyone else.
In the end, it all does not matter, why or how. Some people just make us feel good and bring out the best of us. We must seek those people out and become better people in the process.
The myth of the One is only partly true, the myth of the Ten or Fifty would be more true. We have our internal checklists and outer circumstances, when the checklist is met and circumstances are favourable, we fall in love. This is great, but not limited to one person.
Love resides in us and ultimately we subconsciously deside who we are going to love. We do not have a conscious control over it, unfortunately. But it still comes within us and only us. There are several people you are able to love. So there is no need to become too desperate towards one single person.
Feel free to read Charlie Mai-s article on What men want and what women want and a thoughts about True Love Stories.
