It’s quite simple really if you are serious about a way to win back love - you have to start using your head and stop listening to your heart!
Even if your heart is telling you to drop everything and start chasing after your ex to get them listen to what you have to say whether they want to or not, don’t chase them! Your heart has made you believe that all your ex has to do is to hear you say how much you miss, love and want them back and they will forget about everything that went wrong and take you back then and there! Your heart is wrong.
Let your heart get in the back seat for a bit, get a firm hold on yourself and take some time out. To win back love your head would tell you to do just that so don’t listen to your heart in this instance as your heart is wrong.
Give your ex some space, don’t call them, don’t try to accidentally bump into them where you know they hang out and don’t send them love notes or flowers. Basically, make no attempt what-so-ever to contact them.
You will make yourself look desperate and become a pain in the backside if you keep trying to get in touch. You will become someone that no person in their right mind would even want to be around, let alone consider getting together with again. Like that odd sock you can’t find, aim to be hard to find yourself where your ex is concerned! Let your ex wonder where you are and why they haven’t heard from you and just like that, they will want to hear from you and see you again.
Make sure your ex knows you can stand on your own feet, so if you have a problem you would normally ask them for help with, just don’t! This will enhance your standing with your ex, because they realise that you can cope on your own and you will also improve your own standing in your head. If you figure out how to cook that favourite meal that your ex used to cook for you then you realize you can cope! If you figure out how to change the oil in your car, again you realise that you can cope!
The art to win back love is based on calmness and rationality. Then, and only then will your ex give you the time of day. Whatever fire is burning in your heart for your ex, allowing it to develop in to a full blown bush fire and influence you unduly will only be to your disadvantage. Extinguish those burning flames and use logic instead as this is what will ultimately help you to win back love.
