My boyfriend and I were having enough trouble prior to our engagement that we knew we wouldn’t marry if we didn’t get some couples counseling. I know he hated the idea, but I felt it was important, this resistance also strained our relationship.
It isn’t uncommon for one party to be inclined to go for help and the other to resist. The reason for this is a simple one. There is a deep concern inside some people, to keep their private life private. This can pose a problem when trouble in your “private” relationship might need some outside intervention.
If you think that you don’t need any help and you can take care of any problems between yourselves, then you might want to ask yourself why you clicked on this article. It is because you need help with your situation and you are seeking help.
It doesn’t mean weakness if you decide to go to a couples counselor. Rather, it should make you feel stronger, since you have the guts to face the issues head on and go through some possibly difficult sessions in order to make things better in your lives. Every one in this life has these painful times.
I have about four hundred friends and relatives and a close church family, and I truly don’t know one single couple who hasn’t struggled in some way with some thing. Don’t think for a minute that just because someone is walking with Jesus that they don’t have the same troubles as everyone else.
They might seem to have a handle on everything, but generally, if they are real, they are just walking by faith, believing that God will help them work everything out. If you are having difficulties with your relationship, get with a couple’s counselor and seek good sound advice.
It is my recommendation for Godly counselors to take on your relationship issue, because there is a strong motivation for them to keep you together. The word of God is against division and divorce. This counselor may try more to help you two understand your purpose for being together and offer good guidance and practical ways to make your bitter situation turn sweet. Our church offers free couples counsel, but some charge because this will be the person’s life ministry.
If you are not a Christian person, then you will still benefit from a church counselor. If you feel compelled to resist that type of couples counseling; then you might want to ask yourself why. If you come up with no truly good reason, then go. But in an effort to do something, please, take the advice of someone who knows, and go to someone, the phone book is full of good counselors who are qualified to help you and your mate. Pick up the telephone today and get started on the road to reconciliation, you will be glad you did.
