I’m a 25 year old single female (been single for almost a year and a half, out of a LTR). I have never approached a guy I find attractive. How do I talk to men? Please help. I’m used to men approaching me, but I know I might have better chances of meeting someone if I can just talk to them…
OK I’m 13 to start off with. A couple of my lady friends wanted to see me because it had been a while since school let out for break, both of them were my exes, but i’m always friends with my exes. So I still like one of them, and I will just refer to her for now as girl 1. She admitted she still likes me, and I was convinced because we kissed the day that school let out. SO, at the end of our walk around the neighborhood, girl 2 wanted to see us kiss because she didn’t the first time. girl 2 knows how I feel about girl 1 because we have conversations about our crushes sometimes. So, I kissed girl 1 3 times (which is a big deal for someone like me) and we made out a little. The problem is that her mom passed in a car and we had to stop, and she had to go home. It wasn’t like full blown making out, but our tongues touched. So I was txting her when I got home, and we both agreed that we want to do it again with more privacy. I’m not a romantic person, so I’m not sure how I should do it. We are both nervous when it comes to that type of thing. But I also sometimes say the wrong things, and I don’t want her to stop liking. I need advice!
I have been dating this girl for 9 months. Here is how we started. She used to date my good friend for 3 years and then when he became a cop she started cheating on him with me. They broke up and stayed in contact but she has been with me since. Well we have broken up a lot the past 9 months but she is with me. Now the guy moved away to a city 8 hours away and she still cries over him pondering the what if? Pondering why it didnt work between them.
My question to the all the women out there is this: Is this normal? Should I give her more time and be more understanding? I mean I on one hand can understand that she was with the guy for three years so it may take time to get over him and they were good friends afterward. But on the other hand, why cant she just get over him and if she wants to be with me, then why is she crying? Please help me out!
i ran into an old neighbor the other day and he told me to facebook him. i did, and we have been chatting on there for a while. we hung out last night at his house with a few of his other friends and i think things went well. this is the message i wrote to him tonight, please tell me what you would think if you were him. constructive criticism only please. i am already unsure, so don’t make me feel like an a**. THANKS!
“ok, everyone advised me against doing this, but i just really feel the need. to be completely honest, i have been dating someone for the last almost 4 years. i have actually been trying to get out of the relationship for 2 of those years. it’s a long story that if you care to know, i can tell you in person; but for the record, we are not together.
so obviously i have been out of the dating world for quite some time now. i’ve always been the “aggressor” in dating/relationships, and don’t really like to play the whole wait 2 days before calling, wait 2 weeks before having “the talk” games.
i didn’t want to write this, because i don’t want you to think i am one of “those” clingy/needy girls, but i just feel like i should let you know some things and i would also like to ask you a few things.
i had forgotten what it felt like to get butterflies when someone calls, or to blush when someone mentions your “crush.” but ever since the other day at the bookstore, that is how i’ve felt about you.
like i said, i don’t want to put any pressure on you, because you said your divorce wasn’t that long ago, and we have only been talking again for such a short amount of time.
last night at your house i had a lot of fun, and i hope you did too. now, the hard part. it was kind of awkward, because i didn’t really know how to act/what role to play, especially when you walked me to the car. you kept introducing me as your old neighbor, but then you also kept mentioning places we should go/things we should do together. i mean i tried to get some clues out of you by asking if you were dating anyone, and you said you weren’t really in the “going out all the time” stage of your life anymore.
i definitely don’t want this to sound like the “what are we” speech, but i was just wondering if you think of us as just two old friends hanging out again, or if you want something more than that. i’m completely fine with whatever you decide, i’d just like to know. obviously i’ve had a good time talking with you/seeing you again and would like to spend more time with you, but i really understand if that’s not where you were going with this.
sorry i wrote you this long *** message, but i feel like i can communicate better when i have time to actually think about what i want to say, and maybe avoid awkward silences if this had been on the phone. lol. plus i knew you were with your friends and thought you might like time to think before replying as well.
well, i hope i haven’t put you on the spot, made you feel awkward, or changed how you feel about me, but i think in the end it is just better for both of us if we are on the same page. hope to hear from you soon.”
I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months. We’re exclusive and we both really care about each other. The only problem is his work schedule is so hectic that he hardly has time for me. Either he’s at work, or he’s tired. He says he’s used to most women leaving him because of his busy schedule. I think he’s worth sticking around for so I spend time with him when it’s convenient for him…that means we don’t “date” much. We do see each other often but it’s never for long periods of time. He thanks me for being so “understanding” even though I often have a problem with not being able to see him as much as I’d like to. My question is, am I truly being understanding or am I letting him take advantage of me? Is a work schedule a legitimate excuse or should I expect more from him?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love-shy - this essentially describes my current situation with women. At age 30 and despite many professional successes and being told I’m a very nice and caring person by many people, I have never had a g/f or been in a relationship (ever).
To try to fix the relationship situation, and b/c repeated efforts at online dating just didn’t work for me, I signed up for a local brick-and-mortar matchmaking service that tries to match people looking for serious and long-term relationships, with the ultimate goal of matching people with persons that would make good potential partners for an eventual married relationship. Criteria used to match are based on compatibility, numerous scientific personality assessments, and other character assessments. I am guaranteed nearly 30 unique matches for potential dates, which the agency coordinates.
So the first match arrived by postal mail today, with the a summary of the match’s interests, profile, and phone number included. To set up the actual date, I have to call the match to ask her out and take it from there to see how things go. However, given the approach being used and my inexperience with relationships, what would you recommend actually talking about with the match on the first phone call? Also any recommendations on what would be a good first date idea? Thanks!
Ok, so I just got out of my most serious relationship (ever) with my Best Guy Friend, who I am still good friends with. Anyways, ever since we broke up, I’ve been so lonely and I just cannot seem to move on. However, I really want to move on! All my friends seem to find guys really easily, but somehow I dont (I’ve always been a little shy around new people). I really want to get a new boyfriend. I think it would be good for me and help me move on, and besides, I want a boyfriend and detest being single. Any advice for finding a boyfriend? Should I just get one of my friends to hook me up with someone?
Thanks!
Cay
I’ve been a super introvert my whole life, I’ve been dating this girl for 3 weeks, I have fun with her, and we have the same interests… but right now I’m questioning lifestyles… I really liked being alone, independent, but the cost was total isolation from my peers, which can be depressing sometimes, but for the most part it was worry free. And now with her, there’s sex, someone to talk to, but at the same time she can get annoying/bratty and has problems I don’t want to deal with. I’m kind of at a crossroads, so if anyone has had a similar decision making experience… feel free to comment
I need to know how to put myself out into the dating world. Where do i go to meet girls? How do i start a conversation with a girl without sounding weird or creepy? Please help. My pic is here also. Im 17
http://i667.photobucket.com/albums/vv33/Hathaway614/0527091643.jpg
ok so let me give the run down first then the situation
I am 19 years old,go to community college.I have never dated a guy,kissed a guy,or had sex.i do not believe in sex before marriage.I do not drive or have a license,but that’s a different story.
I had to do a group project for my communications class.We got put in the groups by the teacher.Well this guy in my group is really hott. He is nice and sweet.I really want to talk to him.I need advice on how to talk to him.I need to find out if he has a gf or if he even wants one.I am not an outgoing person so this is very hard for me.I need help.he is got so many good things about him.I really am ready for my first bf but I need help
Thx 4 ur time (please be nice!)
